Update

Quickie.

AJ went yesterday to the doc - the answer is, basically his lower spine is compressing and there's not much that can be done.  Go to physio, take pain pills, exercise as best as he can.  It's basically great news as it means his hip is still good and no surgery required.  So now he's good with everything that is going on with him and going to live.  Yeah!

I looked into Feng Shui's Year of the Dog.  Found out that a Rabbit born in 1963 who is married has to watch out because they are at risk of having an affair.  I told AJ about it.  We laughed. I can't see either of us having an affair. Too much work.

Went to my mom's today.  Was a nice time.  Weather was great, drive was good.  Mom had a wine with AJ and then she started talking about her marriage to my father (not that it was a wonderful marriage).  She basically had started talking of my sis's marriage and comparing.  And went into the horrible things father did.  Sis's isn't that great either - from my point of view and what I hear.  Mom couldn't leave because she believed she couldn't, and when sis fought, mom would tell her to stay, so my sis couldn't leave either because my mom couldn't do it, didn't believe my sis would come out better then her.  So mom stayed until we (sis and I) were almost 20+ years old, and father pushed too far and mom got enough courage to have him leave.  Hence, I wonder if mom will 'let' my sis leave one day - and if at that time my sis will have any strength to even leave.  My sis also apparently had a mild heart attack a while ago.  The joys of my family.

In the end as AJ and I talked about it in the car - Not my circus, not my ponies or elephants. (I don't like monkeys....childhood abuse memories/issues).  I'm so very grateful I got out from out under my mother's control.  And basically detached from most of the drama.

Tired tonight.  Look forward to bedtime....maybe bedtime can be now.