Thursday, January 18, 2018

Learning about Empath

You knew this was coming right?  Of course I had to look up empath and find out more about it to see if it really fit me.

These are responds to Are you an Empath. website.


30 Empath Traits By Diane Kathrine:
1. Knowing: Empaths just know stuff, without being told. It’s a knowing that goes way beyond intuition or gut feelings, even though that is how many would describe the knowing. The more attuned they are the stronger this gift becomes.
- Yeah, sounds like me.

2.     Being in public places can be overwhelming: Places like shopping malls, supermarkets or stadiums where there are lots of people around can fill the empath with turbulently vexed emotions that are coming from others.
- Oh, God, yes!  Sometimes we drive home and I can’t wait to get home as I’m wiped, and ready to cry from being in a mall etc.

 3.     Feeling others emotions and taking them on as your ownThis is a huge one for empaths. To some they will feel emotions off those near by and with others they will feel emotions from those a vast distance away, or both. The more adept empath will know if someone is having bad thoughts about them, even from great distance.
- True

 4.     Watching violence, cruelty or tragedy on the TV is unbearable: The more attuned an empath becomes the worse it is and may make it so they eventually have to stop watching TV and reading newspapers altogether.
- Yes, AJ had to stop watching some shows because I just couldn’t handle them.  Even movies are difficult at times, or a stress in a show.  I will start going on my computer as we watch tv so that I can disengage from the emotion of the show when it gets too much for me.  Newspapers, sometimes I just can’t.  And some news info etc I have to leave the room.  AJ calls me when it’s ‘safe’ for me to return.

 5.     You know when someone is not being honestIf a friend or a loved one is telling you lies you know it (although many empaths try not to focus on this because knowing a loved one is lying can be painful). Or if someone is saying one thing but feeling/thinking another, you know.
- And they don’t like it…..

 6.     Picking up physical symptoms off another: An empath will almost always develop the ailments off another (colds, eye infections, body aches and pains) especially those they’re closest to, somewhat like sympathy pains.
- This one I’ve learned to watch for and not ‘pick up’.

 7.     Digestive disorders and lower back problems: The solar plexus chakra is based in the centre of the abdomen and it’s known as the seat of emotions. This is where empaths feel the incoming emotion of another, which can weaken the area and eventually lead to anything from stomach ulcers to IBS (too many other conditions to list here). Lower back problems can develop from being ungrounded (amongst other things) and one, who has no knowledge of them being an empath, will almost always be ungrounded.
-  Ha ha, where my biggest weight is, front and back.  And the ungrounded, I just wrote about those rocks in the house to help ground me.  Stomach is always an issue.

 8.     Always looking out for the underdog: Anyone whose suffering, in emotional pain or being bullied draws an empath’s attention and compassion.
- Yes, and it will hurt inside me.
 9.     Others will want to offload their problems on you, even strangers: An empath can become a dumping ground for everyone else’s issues and problems, which, if they’re not careful can end up as their own.
- Not so much as I tend to close off myself and be careful when I open to listening to others.  Though I do have a innate desire to listen and be there for others to talk to.

 10.    Constant fatigue: Empaths often get drained of energy, either from energy vampires or just taking on too much from others, which even sleep will not cure. Many get diagnosed with ME.
- Uh, do I need to say anything more to this?

 11.    Addictive personalityAlcohol, drugs, sex, are to name but a few addictions that empaths turn to, to block out the emotions of others. It is a form of self protection in order to hide from someone or something.
- Or any more to this?

12.    Drawn to healing, holistic therapies and all things metaphysical: Although many empaths would love to heal others they can end up turning away from being healers (even though they have a natural ability for it), after they’ve studied and qualified, because they take on too much from the one they are trying to heal. Especially if they are unaware of their empathy. Anything of a supernatural nature is of interest to empaths and they don’t surprise or get shocked easily.
- Sounds exactly like me.  I’ve even written about longing to help heal others…..

 13.   Creative: From singing, dancing, acting, drawing or writing an empath will have a strong creative streak and a vivid imagination.
- My art.  Be glad you can’t hear me sing!  Hum, writing a blog?

 14.    Love of nature and animals: Being outdoors in nature is a must for empaths and pets are an essential part of their life.
- What more needs to be said about this?  It’s where I love to be, and they are essential to me.

 15.    Need for solitude: An empath will go stir-crazy if they don’t get quiet time. This is even obvious in empathic children.
- Yup.

 16.    Gets bored or distracted easily if not stimulated: Work, school and home life has to be kept interesting for an empath or they switch off from it and end up daydreaming or doodling.
- Reminds me of when I was in school (and work) and how bored I would get, and thought I’d go nuts because I got so mindless numb by what I had to do.

 17.   Finds it impossible to do things they don’t enjoy: As above. Feels like they are living a lie by doing so. To force an empath to do something they dislike through guilt or labelling them as idle will only serve in making them unhappy. It’s for this reason many empaths get labelled as being lazy.
- Yeah, see #16.  Mom often called me lazy.

 18.   Strives for the truth: This becomes more prevalent when an empath discovers his/her gifts and birthright. Anything untruthful feels plain wrong.
- This is so, so true.  I struggle when I can’t see or find the truth.  I just need the truth, as it says’ it just feels plain wrong otherwise.

 19.   Always looking for the answers and knowledge: To have unanswered questions can be frustrating for an empath and they will endeavour to find an explanation. If they have a knowing about something they will look for confirmation. The downside to this is an information overload.
- Ah, even this is looking for answers and knowledge.  I’m blogging about it!  I don’t like it when we watch a show and they don’t give the answer/or explain something to be a truth.  It’s frustrating.

 20.  Likes adventure, freedom and travel: Empaths are free spirits.
- Yes, but then at the end of the day, I want to be home and quietly relaxing with my pets/hubby.

 21.  Abhors clutterIt makes an empath feel weighed down and blocks the flow of energy.
- So true.

 22.  Loves to daydream: An empath can stare into space for hours, in a world of their own and blissfully happy.
- Again, reminds of me school and just staring out the windows……

 23.  Finds routine, rules or control, imprisoning: Anything that takes away their freedom is debilitating to an empath even poisoning.
- Controlling the food….ugh.  Tell me a rule to follow and I struggle with it.  And the routine of work was horrible.  Wonder if that’s why the idea of regular volunteering also is something I don’t want to do.

 24.  Prone to carry weight without necessarily overeating: The excess weight is a form of protection to stop the negative incoming energies having as much impact.
- To be fair, some of my weight is because of overeating, but some not.  AJ often as said he just doesn’t understand why I’m overweight with what I eat, and all the stuff I do – I should be either losing weight/losing more weight or just not being that heavy.

 25.  Excellent listenerAn empath won’t talk about themselves much unless it’s to someone they really trust. They love to learn and know about others and genuinely care.
- Yes.  Though this blog is a bit of a change as it’s all about me and my thoughts.  In general, I think this is one reason I have few friends, I don’t talk that much about me, but let them talk a lot of themselves.  Sometimes I think others can’t handle that anymore or feel something is off and stop wanting to be friends.  Or they realize I know the truth about them and that frightens them…..

 26.  Intolerance to narcissism: Although kind and often very tolerant of others, empaths do not like to be around overly egotistical people, who put themselves first and refuse to consider another’s feelings or points of view other than their own.
- Yes, true.

 27.   The ability to feel the days of the week: An empath will get the ‘Friday Feeling’ if they work Fridays or not. They pick up on how the collective are feeling. The first couple of days of a long, bank holiday weekend (Easter for example) can feel, to them, like the world is smiling, calm and relaxed. Sunday evenings, Mondays and Tuesdays, of a working week, have a very heavy feeling.
- Never really thought about it in this way, but yeah.

 28.   Will not choose to buy antiques, vintage or second-handAnything that’s been pre-owned carries the energy of the previous owner. An empath will even prefer to have a brand new car or house (if they are in the financial situation to do so) with no residual energy.
- Funny to see that in writing as I thought it was just me.  And when we looked at houses it was one of the things that I was so aware of.

 29.   Sense the energy of food: Many empaths don’t like to eat meat or poultry because they can feel the vibrations of the animal (especially if the animal suffered), even if they like the taste.
- Ha ha ha.  So true.  I wrote a while ago about looking at the chicken and not being able to buy it.  AJ understands when we stand there and I almost start to cry as I’m holding eggs, then put them back,  I just can’t take them.  Meat is such an emotional issue for me.  I have been fine walking into the store, then looked at the meat I wanted to buy, and not buy, leaving the store upset and not knowing exactly why other then the meat bothered me.

 30.   Can appear moody, shy, aloof, disconnectedDepending on how an empath is feeling will depend on what face they show to the world. They can be prone to mood swings and if they’ve taken on too much negative will appear quiet and unsociable, even miserable. An empath detests having to pretend to be happy when they’re sad, this only adds to their load (makes working in the service industry, when it’s service with a smile, very challenging) and can make them feel like scuttling under a stone.
- Reminds me of work and having to smile and just not able to, exhausting.  Mom always said I was moody and to stop it – smile.  AA’s fake it until you make it…. No wonder I’ve hated that slogan – for so many reasons listed here.


So, this is today’s exciting learning lesson. 

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