So glad that this weekend has been warmish and above all SUNNY. It's like I haven't seen a clear sunny day in weeks. Got to do yard work.
On Saturday I continued (started Friday) the edging of the gardens, front and back. Sunday (today) we went to Canadian Tire and I got a bunch of stuff. Then I put the black edging in on the front two gardens. Have one more to go out front. The edging I first did was with the shovel and getting it ready, then I put in that black 5 inch plastic to keep it clean.
I'm one for borders. It lines it better for me then just the dirt line. Helps me too with the grass cutting. I can clearly get the edges.
Unfortunately, I couldn't do as much as I hoped. The inflammation in my chest hurts the breathing after a while. And I just get fatigued faster. But as least I get out there and do something. Makes me happy.
We took Jax to the dog park this morning too. He had fun. There was another little dog there - surprisingly the little 'Bear' who lives just around the corner from us. The boy there told me at Christmas that they were getting a dog. Then one day I saw him and his tiny little Yorkie mix, named him Bear. (probably as in Teddy Bear!!) He's a cute little dog. The father was in the park with him. The boy was so excited about getting this dog. I do see him sometimes walking him. Father said he wanted a dog for 2 years.
AJ was talking with the guys. Michelle's husband was there. I had brought AJ over to him and introduced him, then left to let them all (there were 3 more men there) talk. AJ had to sit down on his walker. I took off with Jax and Bear.
When I looked back, I wondered. I got a feeling that I didn't contact with at that moment. When we were driving home I asked AJ how it went, he said ok, they don't know me, so it was a start. I realized the feeling I got was a sense that handicapped people are often treated differently. I know that logically. But I have never really connected that with AJ. That others would treat him differently because he is handicapped. Because it's not exactly 'a man'. Strong and standing. I got the feeling they didn't know how to deal with AJ, and yes, AJ is right on they don't know him so they didn't overly talk with him. They didn't ignore him either which was good. I just never realized AJ as handicapped and to treat him differently because of it.
It was a bit of a wow moment for me when I realized it about AJ. I wonder if he feels that often. I know he's mentioned at times he does feel he's different because of his disability. I still can't really wrap my head around how others see AJ's (or others for that matter) disability instead of him as a man. I wonder if I do that with other people with disabilities too. I'd like to think I don't. I DO recognize that people with disabilities have to deal with things differently - as in eg doors / steps etc. I know from AJ to ask first if they'd like assistance. But I wonder if people don't want to be friends with disabled people at times as they feel it would require too much from them. I think that's more what I sensed when I looked back at the men/AJ there. Did they want to be friends with AJ? Or was the disability in the way? And I felt/sensed that the disability was in their way of opening up to being friends with AJ. I sensed that going to dinner with Michelle and her husband wasn't going to really happen. (I had mentioned this to Michelle one day, and thought the four of us could go out and then Pete and AJ would get along etc...) It's not like I don't think he'd not talk to AJ at dinner, but I don't sense he'd want to be friends - as in let's get together, I'll pick you up (because you don't drive/can't get there easily) and we can go for drinks at the bar friends.
AJ does have a friend who literally does this - calls, plans to go to a bar/lunch etc, and comes to pick him up/bring him home. Tho he has been AJ's friend from high school so he knows him a long time. Unfortunately we now live too far to make that an easy plan.
Almost dinner time. After dinner I think I was get AJ to come outside again and we can sit some more on the deck and enjoy that yellowish round thing in the sky!!
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